After all, I knew that man once, and I only wanted him back. If you’re always talking about how great your partner is, whether online or in RL, you might start making people wonder if you’re being genuine or just trying too hard to make it seem like your relationship is perfect. This is why discovering your blind spots is so crucial to being emotionally healthy—and developing healthy relationships. Atheists choose to blindly believe that something came from nothing. The contradictory words and actions, ups and downs, were making me crazy and not what any healthy. It’s not easy work, but the payoffs are certainly worth the effort. You oversell his good traits. Screw that—see him for who he really is! And within that question, my personal quest began. Anyhow, the brain is unable to detect blind love. disappointed in myself for not trusting my gut when it has never led me wrong. We're protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply. Sign #1: Unhealthy distance from trusted family and friends It is normal and often a very good thing to dedicate unequal time and energy to a new relationship. | "Elephant Journal" & "Walk the Talk Show" are registered trademarks of Waylon H. Lewis, Enterprises. That has always been one of my favorite phrases. Elephant found a Natural Solution >>. For relationships to thrive, we all need help to see our blind spots. No matter how nice he is to you at the start, eventually, you will be treated the same way. November 17, 2016 // by Christy Piña. Yeah, except for the fact that you’re just delaying your frustration and resentment. He enjoyed misery; he liked stirring the pot to start trouble and blamed others for his woes. If you want more, grab a subscription for unlimited reads for $3/month. See Amy’s story. And when he tired of being whoever that was, he was not the man for me; the man who would be with me for the long haul. 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In a way that only time and deep reflection can shed light upon, I think that I was unconsciously trying to change him—but I didn’t see it that way. In The First Stages Of Dating And Relationships, It's Not Unusual To Wonder, 'Am I In Love? It’s time to stop and see your boyfriend for who he really is! Now that he does, you’ll be tossed aside for any new, bright, shiny thing. If you’re doing any of these things, you’re turning a blind eye to his fatal flaws and the fact that he’s wrong for you. And at that moment, I let his mood ruin my day. It will show that it’s good for you and you’ll feel good in it. If he is looking to move in together or get married in the first months and then flips and talks about his future in solo-tense, consider running. Really? I am disappointed in myself for allowing his inconsistencies and contradictions to mess with my mind and provoke self-doubt when it was so obvious. Was he my best friend, the person I could depend on when life got rough? No matter how nice he is to you at the start, eventually, you will be treated the same way. Being blinded by love is a real problem, and it can be hard to admit to yourself when you aren’t really happy with someone else. Similar to being blinded by love in a relationship, you can get blinded by love in a friendship. Armed with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, a thirst… Read full bio. We miss the signs that he might have a drinking issue or that she's self-absorbed. He says what he means and means what he says. The contradictory words and actions, ups and downs, were making me crazy and not what any healthy relationship should endure. You’re holding on for what he was like in the early dating days and you’re only setting yourself up for disappointment. You deserve happiness and this guy’s not it. He was not the man who would be by my side or support me in the same way that I supported him. Blinded by Blinded by your love Blinded by Blinded by your love As I walked into the light I saw your face ... You don't show me no sign of your ... Can't see it, B, you're blinded (blinded) You don't realize it And you can trust in my. Erin Murphy is a freelance writer, coach, eternal seeker, and Renaissance soul who aims to open minds, hearts, and souls. But I didn’t. We can’t see our areas of weakness. Blinded by “love”? [Read: 12 signs you’re in love with a selfish partner!] You say there’s worse out there. WHAT IS YOU DOING?! He thinks the world (and everyone in it) owes him. Some guidance—according to your zodiac sign, what else!—that can help decipher if you are in fact falling in love with that someone special! Hey, out of sight, out of mind, right? After all, I knew that man once, and I only wanted him back. Now compare their blind faith to the evidence-based faith of Christianity. There were some outstanding qualities in the man, though he wasn’t really a nice person. Then years passed and, in what seemed like record time, we unraveled. 2. He mistreats others. I’m not mad for all the love I gave so freely without being loved back in the way that I need. Did he make me smile? If you feel these things, however, you’re not so much in love as in lust. If he’s inconsistent or contradictory in what he says and does, consider running. If you have so much to speak up about, you should do so—and then leave! And I kept trying to make him into that person, not knowing that he couldn’t be anything but who he really was. Article by elephant journal. That has always been one of my favorite phrases. Now that he does, you’ll be tossed aside for any new, bright, shiny thing. 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